Don’t Date This Guy

Summer is over. Get used to it. Good news is that now you have more time to improve your image and assess all the issues you have been pointed to during your dating season.

Now, if you are happily involved with someone you really like (or love) – skip this post. We are going to talk about those who lost (either willingly or not) their involvement but haven’t picked up a new one yet. Coming fall and winter are definitely good times to work your issues out.

With economy slow and money becoming more of an issue it may be a good idea to cut on those beer fests with friends and hit the gym or treadmill at home. It will be less expensive and much more productive. Additionally, while staying fit you also avoid purchasing new sizes of the same clothes, which also is a good idea.

If you have been missing some of old friends – it may be time to reconnect with them. Possibly they picked up an acquiantance or two and there are chances they know somebody who’s just your type. Keep looking, don’t be afraid to ask.

Last, but not least – take couple of fresh pictures of you. There’s nothing worse then starting a new dating season with last year’s pictures. Your ex-dates may not remember what was exactly wrong with the date, but they would recall that this picture is associated with something bad or boring. By getting a fresh picture you’re getting yourself a fresh start.

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The summer is over. Now is a the last three weeks when you can still see, almost unobstructively, what you’re getting when you go out on a date.

In just less then a month ladies will start covering themselves in those clothes that hide more than they reveal and that keep you guessing if she’s the right size. It is also going to be less convenient for those romantic walks on the beach or in the parks as colder weather moves in.

So if you’re still searching, now is a good time to wrap up and settle for the cold winter months. Here are some suggestions as to how to do it:

• Don’t plan long dates at fancy places. Settle for shorter time frames (up to an hour), this may leave room for another date on a same day.
• Starting doing lunches. I know some girls are too proud to go on a lunch date, but some are not (I have found that those usually have much nicer personality and generally more interesting people). Balance it out.
• Have a backup plan. The place you’re going to might not appear to be as good when it rains than as when shines. Keep couple of places in mind to be flexible.
• Movies are good again. It’s not going to be freezing in the theaters anymore.
• Keep an extra small umbrella. That alone might be a chance for a second date.
• Now that it isn’t that hot – don’t overdo the cologne or deodorant. Too much smell may be a turn-off.
• Don’t try to penetrate her clothes with your sight. She’s perfectly aware of where you staring at, so keep yourself within bounds.
• More clothes – more chances to make a compliment. Use them wisely.

Generally speaking, pretty much any circumstance can be be used for both harm and good. If your aim is to get that girl – make sure you use them for good.

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The correct answer is “no”, of course, but I hope it made you think.

What do you think when you see a girl with a Blackberry, zealously typing away? Do you think she’s just the corporate slave, just like the most of us? But what if she bought this Blackberry on her own, because she wanted to?

What I usually say is “the cure girl with Blackberry has no personal life”. The reason for it is that the Blackberry (or any smart phone for that sense) is somewhat a cumbersome creature in itself. It takes time to figure one out. If the girl’s private life is all set, mostl likely she doesn’t have the time required for that. If you see she’s doing good with her Blackberry – that might be your chance. Don’t miss it.

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Don’t know about you, but here in NY almost every day it’s around or above 90 degrees. How would you date in this hostile environment, when even air is sweating?

Well, if you accept that you just absolutely HAVE TO abide to certain limitations, then you’re good to go. Just make sure you know what you’re doing. Below is the list of DOs and DON’Ts for hot weather dating.

DO: Shower in warm or cold water before the date. Don’t use extremely hot or extremely cold water though, since your body will be trying to regain temperature balance and produce more heat while at it. More heat means more sweat.

DON’T: Drink sweetened and carbonated beverages. Sweetened beverages, like cola, skew the sugar balance in your body, making you drink more and more. You end up feeling bloated and, again, sweating.

DO: Drink as little as you can. The less you drink, the less sweat your body produces.

DON’T: Stop drinking at all. You need to keep your body hydrated in hot weather, it’s a must! So you have to practice a little by going from larger to smaller amounts of water until you feel that you had enough water not to feel thristy, but you’re not sweating or sweating very little.

DO: Use anti-perspirants, deodorants and other sweating counter-measures.

DON’T: Overuse cologne. Personally I can’t feel smells at all, but my well-placed sources confirm that one thing that’s one thing that is worse then sweaty smelly guy on a date is the guy who hits you with his cologne smell from mile away.

DO: Set up your date as late as you both possibly can. This way you are dating at the lowest outside temperature possible.

DON’T: Set up your date so late that you both are falling asleep. You want to make an impression of an interesting guy, not comfortable pillow. And don’t even get me started if you snore…

DO: Use air conditioner in your car. If it’s broken – fix it.

DON’T: Use mass transit when going on a date. You may feel you’re in rush, the airconditioner may be broken, it could be to hot or too cold in the bus or on the train. If there is no alternative – get to the place at least 20 – 30 minutes ahead of time, bring some large wet napkins and dry paper towels and use them.

DO: Calm down before the date. If you get too anxious you may start sweating again.

DON’T: Bring your sweating or smell up in the conversation. If you feel that you’ve reached an unacceptable level of sweating – excuse yourself to the restroom and wipe whatever body parts you can with cold wet and then dry towels. This will both remove sweat and cool down your skin.

Of course, these DOs and DON’Ts don’t apply for everyone, your case could be significantly different. However, most of us could save a trouble by following this simple dating advice.

One more word for guys with little extra padding around the body. Sorry folks, I’ve been like that for quite some time, so I know what it feels like. Aside from the advice to hit the gym in the fall (we’ll get to that in this blog soon) I can only suggest you limit your activities in the open air to as small as possible. My course of action was as follows:

• take a mildly warm shower, cool down after it
• walk to the car, pump the AC, cool down
• wipe arms, neck and shoulders with dry paper towels
• drive to date’s place, pick her up, get her to the place
• park as close to the place as possible or submit to valet parking’s mercy (both looking for parking and valet are known problems in NY)
• get into the place that is well airconditioned
• drink very little water
• order very easy and light food – seafood or chicken, eat vegetables instead of drinking
• avoid spicy food and heavy drinks like beer
• by the end of the meal (usually before the desert) excuse myself to the men’s room, wipe sweat if there’s any, cool down the skin, maybe wash the face with cold water
• drive date back home as close to the entrance as possible
• try not to get out of the car unless absolutely neccessary

Keep in mind that your health is much more important then any kind of date, so if you feel that no matter what you do you will feel overheated – just postpone your dating efforts until it cools off outside.

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